These thoughts two really distinct but related thoughts keep bouncing around my mind and I wanted to share them with you:

“Our reality is based on a perception of a perception” (we create a reality based on what we *think* others think of us).

AND

“Most folks don’t feel great about themselves”

Jay Shetty suggests that our reality is constructed upon layers of perceived perceptions, which might initially sound perplexing. Essentially, it means we view ourselves through the lens of how we believe others perceive us. For instance, if we think Susie sees us as good, we tend to believe we are good, and vice versa. This phenomenon is common in my therapeutic practice, where many individuals struggle with negative self-perceptions, feeling unworthy or unlovable – believing that others see them that way. Most folks don't feel great about themselves.

This preoccupation with others' opinions often leads to unnecessary suffering, manifesting as anxiety, insomnia, people-pleasing, and depression. However, our self-worth isn't contingent on others' perceptions. It remains constant, unaffected by our good deeds, missteps, or what you *think* someone believes of you. Why do we give so much weight to assumptions about what others think of us, especially when we know that perception is inherently flawed (we are looking for perceived approval from folks who don’t feel great about themselves).

Here's a good journal prompt: So many of us don't feel great about ourselves to begin with, why then do we care so much about what others think?